Split Tales

S1 E5: Chantelle's Tale Postmortem

In this reflective episode, we revisit Chantelle's tale, unpacking the lessons learned and the themes that resonate with many facing similar situations including:
Uncovering Infidelity and Abuse: A deeper look into the societal and psychological factors that contribute to the underreporting and misunderstanding of domestic violence with Jacinta.
Financial Independence: Kerry Sainsbury brings invaluable insights into the importance of financial literacy and independence, sharing strategies to safeguard one's financial future.
Healing and Recovery: Jacinta returns and discusses the concept of radical acceptance and the path to healing post-separation. The journey towards self-discovery and empowerment post-trauma
 Remember, every tale, including yours, is worth telling.
 
We're joined by 
Jacinta Black. She can be found at (1) Medusa’s Sanctuary | Facebook
You can reach out to Kerry Sainbury at www.creditsuccess.com.au and Credit Success Pty Ltd (@creditsuccessau) • Instagram photos and videos
 
Resources for this episode are as follows:
For domestic, family and sexual violence counselling, information and support service support reach out to 1800RESPECT via phone on 1800 737 732 and online at www.1800respect.org.au  
If you are someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts or in need of psychological support reach out to LifeLine on 13 11 44 or visit www.lifeline.org.au  
Split Tales is intended for a mature audience. Episodes discuss topics that can be disturbing including graphic depictions of domestic violence, including emotional, physical and sexual violence, discussions of mental health, addictions and suicide. There is also course language. In some episodes, names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. The host is not a therapist, doctor or lawyer and opinions expressed from guests on the show are their own and don't necessarily represent Leah’s views or the views of Split Tales.

S1 E4: Chantell's Tale

This episode focuses on the tale of Chantelle
As she finds herself entangled in a web of infidelity and manipulation. Despite her fierce self-sufficiency, Chantelle's journey reveals that anyone can become a victim of an abusive relationship.
The podcast episode includes psychological concepts and societal issues such as gambling, emotional manipulation, infidelity and the intricate web of human psychology, neurobiology and the choices we make. It underscores the importance of understanding the deeper layers beneath our actions and the actions of those around us.   
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Resources for this episode are as follows:
For domestic, family and sexual violence counselling, information and support service support reach out to 1800RESPECT via phone on 1800 737 732 and online at www.1800respect.org.au  
If you are someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts or in need of psychological support reach out to LifeLine on 13 11 44 or visit www.lifeline.org.au  
Source material used in this episode includes:
Dopamine Nation, Dr Anne Lembke, 2021, Headline Publishing Group 
Banks, J. and Waters, J. (2023) An examination of the interrelationship between disordered gambling and intimate partner violence. International Review of Victimology 
This study stated “note that poor impulse control may underpin both the development of gambling disorders and Intimate Partner Violence” 
Manoochehr Taghi Pour, et al. (2019). Infidelity in Marital Relationships. Psychology & Psychological Research International Journal 
This study stated, “Low conscientiousness and low agreeableness share the common component of impulsivity and inability to delay gratification and are robust predictors of infidelities.” 
Quote” Researchers have found that marital Infidelity has negative effects on couples’ and parents’ relationships and may be the most feared and destroying experience of couple relationships, which may cause divorce which effects on couple, parents and their children. The process of healing deep emotional wounds of mistrust, betrayal, sadness, loss of confidence is arduous but worth the effort” 
This study refers to five categories of motives for infidelity [which are sexuality, emotional satisfaction, social context, attitudes-norms, and revenge-hostility. Sexuality motives consist of the desire for diversity and dissatisfaction with the primary sexual relationship. Emotional satisfaction might imply relationship dissatisfaction, ego bolstering, and/or emotional attachment to the other person. Social contextual factors refer to opportunity and absence of the primary partner. Attitudes-norms include sexually permissive attitudes and norms. Revenge-hostility applies to infidelity that occurs in retaliation for some perceived wrong by the partner or spouse 
Fong TW. (2005) The biopsychosocial consequences of pathological gambling. Psychiatry (Edgmont). 
Gambling has been defined in a variety of ways but can be best described as “putting something of value at risk on an outcome that is due to chance. 
“Pathological gambling, also known as compulsive gambling or disordered gambling, is a recognized mental disorder characterized by a pattern of continued gambling despite negative physical, psychological, and social consequences.7 It is listed in the DSM-IV as an impulse control disorder” 
Knopp K, Scott S, Ritchie L, Rhoades GK, Markman HJ, Stanley SM. Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? Serial Infidelity Across Subsequent Relationships. (2017) Arch Sex Behaviour 
Our results indicated a threefold increase in the likelihood that a person will engage in infidelity if they already have a history of engaging in ESI... 
Cummings, E. M., & Davies, P. T. (2010). Marital conflict and children: An emotional security perspective. Guilford Press.
Di Chiara G. (1997) Alcohol and dopamine. Alcohol Health and Research World. 
Alcohol affects dopamine release in the NAc, not only through its associated gustatory stimuli but also through its direct actions on the brain 
https://www.amenclinics.com/ states
“Problems in the brain’s self-control network can also lead a person to cheat on their significant other”
https://www.aihw.gov.au/ states
"Globally, gambling has expanded at a rapid pace in recent decades with new technologies and emerging products, and related harms are an increasing concern. The betting sector in Australia is among the most profitable worldwide. The average annual income through betting is roughly $5 billion every year. Most casinos are intended to entice visitors, generating an estimated $4,900 for the Australian betting sector"
https://accumulate.com.au/australia-gambling-statistics states
"Although the legal gambling age is set at 18, betting has become increasingly frequent among adolescents in recent years. Shockingly, one out of five individuals who have an issue with compulsive gambling began placing bets before they reached their eighteenth birthday" 
Split Tales is intended for a mature audience. Episodes discuss topics that can be disturbing including graphic depictions of domestic violence, including emotional, physical and sexual violence, discussions of mental health, addictions and suicide. There is also course language. In some episodes, names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. The host is not a therapist, doctor or lawyer and opinions expressed from guests on the show are their own and don't necessarily represent Leah’s views or the views of Split Tales.

S1 E3: Hannah’s Tale Postmortem Part 2 of 2

This episode is Part 2 of 2 of Hannah’s Tale’s postmortem where we delve into deeper and more technical topics of coercive control legislation, protective orders and considerations for individuals contemplating leaving a controlling relationship.
Through experiences and examples, our experts cover a range of aspects including evidence documentation, financial planning, understanding abusive patterns and the importance of seeking professional advice.  
We hear from experts; Jacinta Black, a counsellor and Desley Dunn, a lawyer.   
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Resources for this episode are as follows:  
For domestic, family and sexual violence counselling, information and support service support reach out to 1800RESPECT via phone on 1800 737 732 and online at www.1800respect.org.au 
Salvation Army DV support can be looked at Family and Domestic Violence | The Salvation Army Australia 
For financial advice for emergency situations involving DV reach out to Financial Superwomen and Support domestic violence survivors | Broken to Brilliant | Geebung
You can access information about drop bags at https://www.sharethedignity.org.au/itsinthebag  
Reach out to our experts via 
Jacinta’s facebook group Medusa's Sanctuary
Amber can be reached at Eureka Whittaker Macnaught  
Desley is over at Dunn Right Legal
Split Tales is intended for a mature audience. Episodes discuss topics that can be disturbing including graphic depictions of domestic violence, including emotional, physical and sexual violence, discussions of mental health, addictions and suicide. There is also course language. In some episodes, names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. The host is not a therapist, doctor or lawyer and opinions expressed by guests on the show are their own and don't necessarily represent Leah’s views or the views of Split Tales.

S1 E2: Hannah’s Tale Postmortem Part 1 of 2

This episode is Part 1 of 2 of Hannah’s Tale’s postmortem.
We discuss and dissect the learnings from Hannah's experience. And we hear from experts; Jacinta Black, a counsellor. Amber Simpson, a financial planner and Desley Dunn, a lawyer.  
Together they form the trinity of separation support. Mind, financial and legal. The pillars that can uphold us when we tread the murky waters of separation. 
The topics tackled in this episode, are the behaviours and the challenges that Hannah battled in her tale.  
The underlying issues of sexual coercion, financial abuse, and co-parenting with child support challenges.
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Resources for this episode are as follows:  
For domestic, family and sexual violence counselling, information and support service support reach out to 1800RESPECT via phone on 1800 737 732 and online at www.1800respect.org.au  
If you are someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts or in need of psychological support reach out to LifeLine on 13 11 44 or visit www.lifeline.org.au 
Source material used in this episode includes:  
“Impact of Sexual Coercion on Romantic Experiences of Adolescents and Young Adults.” C. Collibee and W. Furman (2014) https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4130799/ 
Split Tales is intended for a mature audience. Episodes discuss topics that can be disturbing including graphic depictions of domestic violence, including emotional, physical and sexual violence, discussions of mental health, addictions and suicide. There is also course language. In some episodes, names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. The host is not a therapist, doctor or lawyer and opinions expressed from guests on the show are their own and don't necessarily represent Leah’s views or the views of Split Tales.

S1 E1: Hannah’s Tale

This episode focuses on the tale of Hannah who navigates through an emotionally abusive relationship, its end and the aftermath from her perspective. The podcast episode includes psychological concepts and societal issues such as love bombing, emotional manipulation, financial control and the importance of self-reflection. Hannah discusses the disturbing practices within her relationship, figuring out how to leave, navigating her financial situation, coping with the single parenthood aftermath and learning from a subsequent troubled relationship. 
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Resources for this episode are as follows:  
For domestic, family and sexual violence counselling, information and support service support reach out to 1800RESPECT via phone on 1800 737 732 and online at www.1800respect.org.au  
If you are someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts or in need of psychological support reach out to LifeLine on 13 11 44 or visit www.lifeline.org.au  
Source material used in this episode includes:  
“Why Does He Do That? Inside the Mind of Angry and Controlling Men” By Lundy Bancroft (2003 edition) available on Amazon.com 
Split Tales is intended for a mature audience. Episodes discuss topics that can be disturbing including graphic depictions of domestic violence, including emotional, physical and sexual violence, discussions of mental health, addictions and suicide. There is also course language. In some episodes, names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. The host is not a therapist, doctor or lawyer and opinions expressed from guests on the show are their own and don't necessarily represent Leah’s views or the views of Split Tales.
 

Split Tales Trailer

Real separation stories, told by real people. 
You can expect a kind of "What to Expect When You're Separating" vibe with the quirkiness that comes from relationship breakdowns.
We cover catalyst events that end relationships, child care arrangements & property settlements as well as Do's and Don'ts from those who've navigated a separation before.
Each Tale is followed by a postmortem episode to explore the moral of the story.